Alright, I think I need to start a new "Sappy" category on this blog because I've tended towards the sentimental a bit more frequently lately. I did add "friendship" as a category, so maybe that will keep me covered for a bit.
On Saturday evening, the first real, Spring-like night we've had, a good friend mentioned the concept of "moments of grace." She was talking about her love relationship, but I think this idea can be applied to any relationship or endeavor. Let's face it, pretty much everything in life can be a huge pain in the ass; friendships, family relationships, work relationships, obviously romantic relationships, even inanimate objects like your apartment. But when you can take a moment to recognize the moments of grace, it all starts to feel sort of worth it. I have this brother who is infuriating in how unavailable he is, and yet sometimes he'll do something so off the wall and out of the blue expressly to make me laugh, and I become full of gratefulness that I am related to this particular person. My friendships are a constant work-in-progress, with me always concerned that I'm a good enough friend, that I'm responsive enough, that I said the right thing when I was asked for advice, but when I sit on a gorgeous roof on a gorgeous night laughing and drinking belinis with my gorgeous, smart, kind and sensitive friends, it's worth every ounce of energy I've spent.
I could go on and on with examples, but I'm sure you get my drift. The thing I'm trying to accomplish now is recognizing those moments of grace on the job. It used to not be difficult. It used to be all fun all the time, even with all of the hard work. Now, people are grumpy, people are scared, nobody wants to spend money, nobody knows their own future, everybody is basically drowning in uncertainty, so where is the moment of grace there? Maybe it's when I call a designer and say "The costume designers of the Jennifer Lopez movie loved your jewelry and wants to pull some in for the fitting on Tuesday" and she's giddy with excitement. Maybe, just maybe, if we're ALL on the lookout for these moments, they'll happen more frequently.....what do you say we give it a shot???
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